He really wasn’t my type and we really didn’t have anything in common, including a common city. The 2 hour drive definitely made things difficult, but I was just beginning to feel it was worth it.
I’d held back as long as I could but was beginning to crack, to let him in, to really care.
He’d been in town the weekend before, which had been good. Blissful even.
I went for a run and came back sweaty and happy. Sprawled out on my living room floor, my head pulled to my knees, really deep into the stretch, my phone rang.
A smile immediately found me. “Hey, you.”
“Hey.”
We shot the shit for a few minutes. Talked about our days, work, the weather.
“Sooo when will I see you next?” Flirty, yes.
“Look. Things are getting busy at work and I don’t think you understand how demanding my job is. I’m a busy guy and you work a lot too, I know. You’re a lot of fun though. It’s just...”
It suddenly dawned on me what was happening. This wasn’t my first rodeo. “Are you dumping me?”
“I guess I am.”
“Over the phone? Seriously?”
“...”
“I just thought I deserved a little more than that. You were just here and you waited until now?”
“Look, don’t get crazy. I thought we were really getting along.”
“Um. Yeah. I thought so too. So I don't understand...”
“You’re a cool chick, totally fun. But you’re not the kind of girl you have feelings for.”
Despite my best efforts, a small gasp escaped me. Not the kind of girl you have feelings for? How does anyone hear that and respond?
In that instant, he stripped away from me my worth and tossed it aside like a dirty rag. Left me naked and broken.
He spoke finally. “Look...”
I sucked up every last bit of strength and dignity. “I’m done here.” And pressed end with my thumb. End indeed.
Not the kind of girl you have feelings for. Two years later, it still haunts me.
Write it down and let it go. Let’s keep it to 600 words or less.
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Im so sorry you were dumped over the phone, and so cruelly spoken to. Im glad you hung up on him, too.
*HUG*
You said, "How does anyone hear that and respond?" But, all I could think was how does anyone *say* that, out loud, to another human being?!
Great writing, great honnesty, "In that instant, he stripped away from me my worth and tossed it aside like a dirty rag. Left me naked and broken."
(((hugs)))
Woah, harsh! I could literally feel the gut punch that those words had for you. Pardon me saying so, but what a dick!!!
Been there, heard something similar, felt that worthlessness hit me. Then I hung up and go on with it. Glad you did the same.
Holy shit. That was beyond harsh. I mean, you have to be pretty creepy to say that to another human being.
Wow. That just might be the worst breakup I've ever heard about. That would haunt me too, but I hope you don't think of it often. Clearly that dude has some kind of problem. Maybe someone dumped him the same way when they found out what an asshole he was!
*THAT* was not cool! I would have been completely broken from that. Over the phone? really?
What a total ass!
And it's so obvious that he had the problem not you. What a douche. My ex-husband told me he wanted a divorce over an instant message. Why are people so stupid?
Awful that he could say those words, flippantly. Of course he did it over the phone. Of course.
Obviously, he was not worth your feelings, but I am so very sorry those cruel words have burrowed themselves into your consciousness, even years later.
Wow!!! What an Asshole! Good for you for ending that call. It is a shame that words have so much power. I understand why that experience would haunt you. But I'm sure you are better off without him and maybe it took him saying something so horrible to show what type of person he really was. Stopping by from Remembered.
How kind of him to do it over the phone instead of email. Sarcasm!
I hate douche bags. Hard. Especially ones who are douchey to you.
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